Gentle contact with the child within. Our child within has often been ignored or banishes for a considerable time span. The most important thing to do when you feel the child's distress is simply to listen without running away or trying to fix it and make it all better. The child maybe raging, angry and disbelieving If you can, find a safe and quiet place where you can speak quietly out loud to the child. Tell your child within you intend to listen, do not make any demands or ask what the matter is.The child will express these sometimes vehemently, sometimes defeatedly asking for a period of mourning and grief.The child within has been locked away in a prison of our making a dark basement hidden in a corner,
Listen for our new feelings and emotions --don't be too quick to ask, "Why?" or "What caused this?" Our Child within often needs to cry and experience a whole gamut of newly released emotions before we can start to re-introduce trust. The causes are often dis-respect of the child--a disapproving glance from someone or an off-hand remark. We find that these dis-respects are stirring up old issues like parental disapproval or our mother's disbelief about what happened to me when we were little...
Just sit. Be available. Listen. Feel the feelings. Sometimes you may be entirely inside the feelings, just like the child. That's OK. Watch yourself, and identify your parental voice when you use it the child disappears shrinks back into the shadows that is the experience of the child. meanwhile, and notice when you may be able to become the playtime respectful friend for our needy child within.. These are important turning points in our relationship to the child within. These turns happen over and over. It's not done all at once. Like a small bird trapped in a room open the windows and doors of our personality and emotions to allow the child to fly into recovery.
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