Children are born into the world with a total right to have all their needs met.

The definition of child abuse is simple: whenever the spirit of the child is disrespected the child is abused. Abuse of the spirit of the child can take many forms, from the overt forms of child abuse that conventional society is able to accept – such as overt sexual abuse, physical violence and the extremes of neglect – to whole realms of abuse that fall below society’s radar and are considered normal and healthy forms of parenting. Children have massive needs, and where parents fail to meet these needs – whether society notices or cares or even bats an eye – the child ends up abused. Children are born into the world with a total right to have all their needs met. This is the responsibility of parents, and although parents have a whole palette of ways and techniques to deny their responsibility and pathologise defenders of the child, this does not change the basic facts. Our Child Within experience torture when our needs go unmet,  it is only because we are taking the deep emotional side of the most disenfranchised minority in our society: the child. The hidden child our child within.

We become so identified with what happened that they stay stuck there; always identified by what happened, and in many cases, we use that identification as an excuse not to grow our consciousness it remains in a trapped unconscious state.

Bad things happen to good people. There is a lot of suffering in the world. But that doesn't have to be where we LIVE our lives!

The state we are in changes during the day. Sometimes we are in a sleep state, sometimes we are in a DISSY state, sometimes we are in an excited state.

We can be in all kinds of different states. The state that we go into when we experience a trauma is totally normal and natural. But afterwards,the state we stay in is not up to us it is governed by our child within and is easily triggered into a dissociated state which becomes the paramount state we live our "dissy" lives. Cut off alienated on a strange hostile planet

We are not saying that these things didn't happen and that in that moment we aren't a victim. Of course we are. But after that moment happens, how we live our life, where we choose to live emotionally, is not up to us it up to our subconscious ! Moments of victimhood have happened,

The life of being a victim is not chosen. We have become a victim of our choice to identify with a moment of trauma in our childhood.

The problem is not to avoid pain of childhood trauma and constantly revisit it or to deny what happened to us; the goal is to learn that we have the power within us to connect with our child within and that starts by not letting an event define us. But to fearlessly look within to the child. So when they do, give them an empowering meaning instead of choosing to relive them over and over. Don't make the trauma that we felt become our identity.

Who you are is infinite; you are a child within and we have been sent here with a specific gifts of perfection that are only ours to express. The childhood events that occur are not meant to shape us,or to mould us or to help us step into what society and culture thinks supposes us to be. We are not broken. We do not need to be fixed. We are eternal and a part of Loving -Kindness that supports us. Give us our gift of reality.

Don't stay stuck in a moment of our childhood past letting our whole life be defined by one event. Our child within is so much more than that! Become introduced to your inner intuitive loving voice guide. The Ten Stage Studies paves the way to a new life.